April 18-20, 2008

Taking Constructive Action

What if you discover that your spouse is having an affair? When I wrote my book: Hope for the Separated, I discovered that marital difficulty is caused by the marriage partners, not by someone outside the marriage. Unresolved conflict, unmet needs, and stubborn selfishness eat away at a relationship over the weeks and months.

So, what shall you do? Tell your mate how deeply you are hurt, acknowledge your past failures, and ask for reconciliation. Your spouse may be hostile, but you have taken the first step. Your spouse may not break off the affair immediately. Express hope and confidence that the two of you can find answers to your problems. Your hope will tend to stimulate hope in your spouse.

 
Today's A Growing Marriage Daily content has been written by Dr. Gary Chapman and is based on the book Hope for the Separated by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishers, copyright 2005. Used by permission.